Respect is not something that comes naturally. It is earned.
If you’re not receiving the respect you believe you deserve, it could be due to specific actions that are driving people away.
Roll up your sleeves and let’s look at the 10 behaviors you should avoid if you want to acquire genuine respect from those around you.
Nobody likes a liar. It’s as simple as that.
When you lie, you break trust, and without trust, respect is out of the question. Every time you’re dishonest, people’s faith in you diminishes a little.
The first step to gaining respect is always telling the truth, no matter how hard it may be. It might be uncomfortable at times, but honesty is one of the strongest pillars of respect. And the thing is, people might not always like the truth, but they’ll respect you for it.
2) Complaining a lot
We all have problems, and it’s perfectly okay to vent sometimes.
But if you’re constantly complaining about every little thing, it can be off-putting for those around you.
Complaining not only spreads negativity but also indicates a lack of initiative to solve the issues at hand. Instead of focusing on the problem, try focusing on the solution. Show people that you’re a problem-solver, someone who takes charge instead of just complaining.
3) Talking behind people’s backs
Now, this is a big no-no in the respect department.
I once had a friend, let’s call him John, who was always gossiping about others. He’d share the latest rumors and often speak negatively about people who weren’t around. At first, I didn’t think much of it. But then I started to wonder, if he’s saying all these things about others to me, what’s he saying about me to others?
That’s when I realized how damaging gossip can be. It breaks trust. It spreads negativity. And it definitely doesn’t earn you any respect. If you have an issue with someone, it’s best to talk to them directly rather than discussing them behind their back.
4) Arriving late
Being late all the time conveys the impression that you don’t respect other people’s time.It’s equivalent to declaring that your time is more valuable than theirs. Nonetheless, it demonstrates your regard for other people’s schedules when you arrive on time, or even a little early.
5) Not keeping your word
Promises are commitments and expressions of trust, not just empty words. A pledge communicates your reliability to the other person. You are promising to accomplish something, and that promise is really important.
What occurs, though, if you violate that pledge? That confidence is betrayed. It’s similar to breaking a glass vase—you can attempt to put it back together, but it will never look the same. And the more promises you break, the less respect you get from others.
One of the most admirable traits someone may possess is reliability. It demonstrates to them your dependability and the value of your word. Being someone others can trust is also a surefire approach to gain respect in an unpredictable world.
6) Acting superior
I’ve encountered a number of individuals that felt superior to everyone else throughout my life. They were conceited, constantly boasting about their accomplishments and demeaning others. To be honest, it was difficult to respect them.
Those that are self-assured without being conceited have always impressed me. People who are aware of their value yet do not feel compelled to constantly demonstrate it. those who don’t always believe they are correct and are willing to learn from others.
Here’s what I’ve learned: humility is a sign of greatness. It’s not about belittling yourself; it’s about understanding that you’re not superior to others—that we all have our strengths and weaknesses, and that’s okay. Being humble has earned me more respect than any achievement ever has. Stay confident, stay humble, and the respect will follow.
7) Showing others no respect
People won’t respect you if you’re a jerk, that much is true. Clearly. People won’t respect you if you treat them badly, regardless of how intelligent, wealthy, or successful you are in the room.
Everyone has encountered that somebody who views others as inferior or inconsequential and believes they can bulldoze them. It does not look nice. It’s actually rather nasty.
It’s not hard to follow the golden rule: treat people like you want to be treated. Do you desire esteem? Be considerate. Everyone is entitled to be treated with respect and decency, regardless of who they are or what their circumstances may be.
8) Ignoring the emotions of others
Were you aware that empathy has a positive physiological impact? Empathy can reduce stress, lift your spirits, and possibly lengthen your life, according to studies. But in addition to the health advantages, it’s essential for gaining respect.
You will quickly lose people’s respect if you disregard their feelings. It conveys the idea that you are indifferent to their viewpoints or experiences. Conversely, demonstrating empathy—validating their emotions and making an effort to comprehend their perspective—demonstrates your regard for them as unique people.
Spend some time understanding and listening. People should know that you care about their feelings. They will appreciate you for it and feel heard and seen. It’s also beneficial to your health!
9) Not listening
It takes more than just keeping quiet when someone else is speaking to truly listen. It all comes down to genuinely listening to what they have to say. Recognizing their viewpoint, posing intelligent queries, and demonstrating that you have heard them are all important.
Someone is told they matter and that their feelings and views are significant when you truly listen to them.
10) Disguising oneself as another
The unvarnished fact is this: pretending doesn’t work. Not over an extended period of time. Being a fake will cost you respect more quickly than anything else since people can detect inauthenticity from a mile away. Everybody has insecurities. Everyone has certain aspects of themselves that they would like to alter. However, assuming a false identity is not the solution. It’s transparent, tiresome, and completely disrespectful to oneself.
The most esteemed individuals I’ve encountered are shamelessly authentic. They don’t waste time attempting to fit into the mold of someone else; instead, they embrace their eccentricities and own their shortcomings. People appreciate them because they are sincere and honest.
Thus, give up acting. Accept and value every odd, amazing, and ridiculous aspect of who you are. Be true to yourself. Be sincere. Act sincere. And observe how the respect pours in.